Would it kill you to say good game? I can't stand it when a player (winner or loser) just leaves. It seems like fewer and fewer players are acting like good sports. Sometimes I will play someone in multiple games and nothing but crickets from them. One of the great things about playing chess online is the community and if you can't spend one second of your time acknowledging the other player or gameplay then maybe you should take up sewing or basket weaving.
Just venting.
But if you allow others' (alleged) lack of graciousness to tick you off, then you seem to be defeating the goal of being nice in the first place. ;)
You can set lichess to say "Good game, well played" for you automatically after every game, one of the best choices I made, puts me on a good mindset
You should be nice from the inside without the outside mattering, hating even when the opponent is toxic will just make your mood worse, it's just a game after all
@cleverpun said in #3:
> You can set lichess to say "Good game, well played" for you automatically after every game, one of the best choices I made, puts me on a good mindset
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I thought that only works after you lose or draw.
@Hedgehog1963 said in #4:
> I thought that only works after you lose or draw.
That's when it's most important to say it automatically imo
sounds like you're trying to be nice for something in return... if typing it out and not getting it back is too much of a hassle for you,maybe you should turn on the auto message and pray to god they have it on themselves.
real note tho, not everyone has chat on, not everyone speaks english, and a lot of people probably want to play as many games as possible and go to the next one
Some of your opponents may be chatbanned, or in a rush. In this online world there is little need for niceties as such.
I am with you, busacco, although I myself am not always doing that. I try to be a good sport, but sometimes I need my energy not being a bad sport, and sometimes my opponents just didn't play well or got lucky af. There are many circumstances under which you might not want to say good game.
Also I don't like automatic solutions, they make you look like a bot. I will always consider a genuine gg something pleasant, and an automatic gg kind of dishonest. A strangers honest smile can make your day, but if a stranger smiles at everybody without making a difference, without really seeing the people he/she smiles at it just doesn't feel that way.
Of course we want something in return, I can't quite believe in that zen stuff some are propagating. If I smile at somebody I hope for some change in them. If they just look at me like a brick wall it's not the best experience. If everybody would look at me like a brick wall I would eventually probably end up smiling less at strangers. Now every 5th to 10th person genuinely smiles back, which has to be good enough, I guess. Same online.
Somebody said one of the great things online is the community. I would say one of the worst things online is the lack of genuine human contacts. Obviously we are playing real people, but it's rarely felt. I don't know how they look, where they are from, what there mood is. We rarely chat or talk about the game(s) afterwards. The highest of feelings usually is a tense match, where both say ggs afterwards. That's not much of a connection, but the best you can get without writing in forums and DM'ing people.
It's something I like better on chessdotcom, there you usually get a nationality flag displayed, they can choose a so-called flair, they have usually a user picture displayed. All this you could see on lichess only if you click on their profile. Is it important where somebody is from in order to have a chess game with them? No. Maybe it's not even telling you much, because it's not like everybody from a certain country thinks, acts, looks in a certain way. Still it adds some human touch, that I often miss on lichess.
Online chess can be a very lonely place if all you are doing is playing and studying, without having "friends" on here. And personally, as an introvert person, I don't find it all that easy to connect. It's something that even holds me back in my chess improvement. I would write a blog post about that, but I guess nobody would and could read it, as I don't have many followers and such blog posts tend to be virtually non-existant.
Long contribution from me here, but I felt like supporting the OP.
"One of the great things about playing chess online is the community."
Well, that's just your own view. For other users of this site, one of the great things about playing chess online is not having to talk to people.
Maybe it's sad, but I think, Panagrellus is right....
